Is adoption for you?
Allowing your baby to join an adoptive family can be a caring and positive choice for your child’s future.
Having a baby doesn’t always mean you are ready to be a parent. You are giving your baby a gift no one else can – the gift of life. It hurts to think that as much as you love your baby, you may not feel ready or able to be a parent right now. The adoptive parents you choose will provide the loving, stable, secure home you wish for your baby.
You may wish, “If only things were different!” It is important that you make your decision based on what your life is like right now.
Most people know that a woman who chooses adoption loves her baby and is making a very brave sacrifice for her child’s future.
It might be helpful, as you think about adoption to consider the following questions:
- Right now, am I able to provide for my child’s financial, emotional and physical needs?
- Will having another baby affect my ability to care for any children I already have?
- Am I ready now for parenthood for the rest of my life?
- Will I have to depend on my parents to help me or baby-sit for me a lot of the time?
- Do I really feel ready to be a parent by myself? Will the people who say they will help me REALLY help in the long run?
It is normal to feel sad even if you know you have made the right choice. Placing a baby for adoption involves a loss and a sense of sorrow. Accepting the fact that, at this time in your life you may not be ready to raise a child, can be painful. But knowing your child is part of a stable, secure and loving family can help give you peace of mind.
